Love Monger Ministries OR Confessions Of A Bigot…


OK, OK so I was one of those kids in high school that hated jocks!!!  I was a theatre rat and those mean ol’ football jocks were the ones who picked on my friends.  Once I even got in the middle of a group of them jocks and stared them down for picking on a kid I barely knew named Rodney.   Suffice it to say, I grew up and swore MY kids would never, ever become one of  THOSE guys.

Fast forward to 2009.  I’m all grown up (well mostly) and during the last week of school MY boys both told me they wanted to go out for football.  Tom and I had a few discussions about it.  His concern was for their physical health (Tom has had multiple knee surgeries from old football injuries) and all I could think about was, “Oh My GAWD!!!  MY boys are going to be JOCKS!!!!!!”.

During the month of June, the boys went to practice 3 days each week as an optional learning time.  Then beginning August 3, they have mandatory practice from 8:00 am until 2:30 pm Monday thru Friday until a week before school starts then it goes to the school schedule of 3:45 until 6:00 pm.

Now I’ve got a confession to make.   While I was  pregnant with each of the boys, every thing I promised that would “NEVER” happen with my children has all happened.  I swore MY boys would NEVER bite, and sure enough, my older son was a biter in preschool.  I swore MY boys would NEVER punch each other, and sure enough, we’ve had to break up more than one physical altercation.  I swore MY boys would NEVER be bigots, and a couple of weeks ago, we had a family discussion where the question was asked, “If a person hates redneck bigot types, does that make that person a bigot as well?  What’s the difference between hating someone for their religion or skin color and hating someone for their ideas about other people?”.  Sure enough, we came to the conclusion that we were all guilty of bigotry in our intolerance of bigots.  And, what about my bigotry of football jocks?

Tom and I have gone to practices and watched the boys of our high school team.  They are absolutely amazing!!!  The commitment, the HARD work, the attitude of team work–it’s all an awful lot to be admired.  These boys are really neat kids and, with the exception of a couple of jerks (and “jerk” was not the word the boys used, to be certain) they are exceptionally friendly and very community minded.  Last year a few of this years seniors even went to the local elementary school to read to the little kids and LOVED it!!!

So, here I must make an amends to all the jocks of the world.  Yes, there are a few bad apples in the group, just like any other.  However, after seeing all the ungodly hard work that goes into playing football, I have developed a new respect and admiration for those individuals who dedicate themselves to sports, in particular, football.

Please accept my sincerest apologies and my heartfelt gratitude for teaching me a truly important life lesson–may I see ALL groups as comprised of individuals, both good and bad, and not simply judge the members of those groups based on the actions of a few.


LaVerna (and Tom) Vickers